Over the summer, I was on the beach in Margate, NJ. There was a beach party going on with ice cream, pizza, live music and a dance contest. As Dude, Diva, J and I walked past the dance contest, I saw a crowd of girls between the ages of 8 – 15. At the top of their lungs, they were all singing, “S S S & M M M, S S S & M M M.”
Ok, so I have been known, on occasion, to jam to a little Rihanna myself. I have some of her songs on my iPod and listen as I go for a run. Ok, it's more like a slow jog. Or a fast walk. Whatever, I'm slow, that's not the point. Anyway, I'm no prude and can handle listening to Rihanna's sexed up lyrics. But, there was something really disturbing about hearing little girls singing about S&M and how chains and whips excite them. What is the world coming to?
When I was a little girl, my favorite singer was Cyndi Lauper. I loved her! My dad took me to her concert when I was in third grade and it is still one of my best memories. Here is what I was singing when I was 8 or 9:
“The phone rings in the middle of the night
My father yells what you gonna do with your life?
Oh daddy dear you know you're still number one
But girls they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have
That's all they really want
When the working day is done
Girls they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun”
So, we don't really know what kind of fun they wanted to have. Cyndi was really vague. Perhaps she was referring to a little S&M. But, at least, in my young, 8 year old mind, she was just talking about having some pure, innocent fun. And she thought her Daddy was #1! How nice!
I know I have a choice as to what I put on the radio for my kids to hear. But, it isn't really up to me. Dude came home from camp last summer singing about brushing his teeth with a bottle of Jack, thanks to Ke$ha and now both my kids are singing about having a menage a trios, thanks to Katy Perry. And forget about sex! How about voluntarily killing yourself for someone else? Thanks to Bruno Mars, all our kids are singing about how they would “jump in front of a train for you, put a bullet in my brain for you...” WTF??? Really?
I'm such an open-minded person and it really is VERY HARD to offend me. So, it is really surprising that I am so disturbed by this. I am not afraid to talk about anything and know, in the future, I will happy to have open discussions about sensitive topics with my kids, but come on!
And, what do all these racy lyrics lead to? Apparently super sexy seven year olds. Check out this video about crotchless underpants for seven year olds and then, please, let's get a conversation going in the comments, because THIS is something we must discuss!